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7 STEPS TO BUILD SELF-CONFIDENCE

by Katia Tripod on May 2, 2012 · 0 comments

 

ARE YOU SELF-CONFIDENT?

Do you know what makes the difference between being successful versus not? Is it intelligence? Absolutely not! There are many intelligent people struggling out there. Money? It may look like it, but having money does not mean feeling successful or even wealthy. It is just colored papers with figures on it. I have met very rich people living miserable existence. Hard work? Might work though, but it is an old concept. We all know people working very hard and being far from succeeding. Some are even facing difficulties to make both ends meet. So, what is it? The combination of all the above? A special talent? Once again, Van Gogh was really talented but only sold one painting in his life; the “Red Vineyard At Arles.” Picasso on the other hand became very rich selling his paintings while he was alive. Question of style? Certainly! But not in their paintings; in their personality. One felt like a looser, the other one like a winner. Confidence is what made the difference. We naturally tend to trust people with self confidence more than others. It makes it easier for us to believe in them. Especially as we know that people cannot give what they don’t have.

So, what is self-confidence? My own definition goes towards faith in oneself and belief in one’s power and abilities. Why is it important to feel self-confident? One: because you are the only person who will always be there for you. Therefore, you need to be able to trust you own capacities, knowledge and competencies in order to feel secure and reassured that you will make the right decisions and take the right actions in your life. Two: because you cannot ask people to believe in you if you do not believe in yourself.

SELF-CONFIDENCE SAYS YES WHERE DOUBT SAYS NO.

THE 7 STEPS TO BUILD SELF-CONFIDENCE:

  1. Know yourself. Socrates motto was “Know thyself, and you will know the universe and the gods.”
    a)    Write down all the skills, competencies, knowledge (even if you are not an expert), and abilities you have.
    b)    Write down all the accomplishments in your life. What are you proud of? What method did you use to be successful in these instances? Do you see a pattern? Can it be repeated in the future? Can it become a success ingredient?
    c)    List all the values you see in yourself as well as all the values you love in people you admire. How well do they serve you? THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE.THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE
    Read everything you have put down on paper several times over the coming 7 days. Own every word. Are you starting to feel wealthier? THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE.THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE.
  2. Do something courageous. What does the word courage mean to you? How does it feel physically? Exciting or scary? Find one new thing to do every week. Anything, from learning a new skill to public speaking at a toastmaster meeting or going alone to a party…pick your own. Stretch yourself. Step out of your comfort zone. You are immensely resourceful. You will be amazed to see how far or deep your can go. Dare your life. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINETHIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE
  3. Show perseverance. Don’t give up when things get harder. If what you do does not work, re-think your process. It is not what you try to achieve that is not working but how you are doing it.THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS
  4. Use your creativity. Try to come up with 10 new ideas every day. Stop for 20 minutes and write them down. It does not matter if they are good or not. A key ingredient to your success is your resourcefulness not just the availability of external resources. Cultivate it and you will see it grow. You will no longer depend on existing resources to be successful; you will create them. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE
  5. Be grateful. Learn to say thank you and to show your appreciation to the people around you. Write everyday at least 5 things you are grateful for. It will keep your focus on the positive things in your life. Enjoy all that you have.THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE
  6. Choose to be optimistic. Learn to see the glass half full instead of half empty. For the realist, it will not change the fact that the glass only contains half of its capacity, but it will change your appreciation and bring more pleasure than fear while drinking it. It is more rewarding to feel good for having something than feeling afraid of loosing it.THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE. THIS IS A BLANK LINE
  7. Be good to yourself. Offer yourself a great, healthy life. Treat yourself with care and respect. Eat well, drink lots of water, sleep enough, exercise and take time to laugh and love. Every morning, offer a smile to the most important person in your life-YOU.

You want more self-confidence? Don’t just try. DO IT. If you need someone to hold the mirror for you, I am always glad to help.

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